It isn't easy.
Our situations are different.
I'm a guy.
I'm OLD.
And my spouse left the JWs with me about 40 years ago.
BUT
I was raised a JW and am very poorly socialized. I get along with people but have just a few friends - someone who would help me hide a body, if I had to.
There is a moderate-sized group of people in the XJW community who I know (and have known) online who I like, admire and respect. Some are no longer among the living; I miss them.
I think it is important to try within your means to help others. I've done stuff.
Most people here think I'm an ass, and that is fine with me.
My totem animal is the armadillo. I have a hard shell and I can ignore trouble until it goes away.
I think the key for you will be to develop a similar hard shell and appreciate the few people with whom you can build a friendship, but it isn't a quick process, and disappointment is a big part of it.
If it were possible, I would offer you my blessing, but I am not at all a believer.